APastor Christopher Bruesehoff, pictured with his daughter Rebekah who began her transition from male to female as early as the age of two years old.
It’s who God created her to be !
Pastor and wife support their transgender child.
By Rach Hardesty
A Pastor of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, and his wife Jamie recently told The Daily Mail that their son, Ben is now their daughter. Her name is Rebekah, and she has been in transition for eight years.
“Rebekah has always been gender non-conforming. As young as two or three she gravitated to typically feminine things” Jamie explained. ” By the time she was seven all of this hit a crisis point-her anxiety was crippling and her depression was becoming life threatening.”
“We were faced with a seven-year old kid who wanted to die. One time she punched out the screen of her second story window and tried to jump out,” she said.
Following the advice of their family doctor and counselor the family decided to allow their son to transition into their daughter.
With the help of a gender specialist, Rebekah was able to peel back the layers, and that’s when her family were able to understand. They discovered that see wasn’t a boy who liked pink she was a girl, reads the Daily Mail report.
This amazing story is one that really touched my heart. So many of us have, and do grow up in homes that are not accepting, and we do sometimes lose family relationships as a result of Transphobia. I know of many families that have been torn apart due to a lack of understanding of transgender people, misconceptions, fear and religion, and/or moral dogma. My birth family was one of them, and religious dogma was at the core.
Jamie went on to explain in the interview, that Rebekah had always gravitated to feminine things. Identifying her as gender non-conforming.
“We were faced with a seven-year old kid, that wanted to die.” Punching out the screen of a second story window and trying to jump out, describes behavioral pathways that almost always lead to greater issues.
Dr.Kenneth Zucker long acknowledged as a foremost Authority on gender identity issues in children, has also been a life long advocate of gay and transgender rights believes that gender dysphoric pre-pubertal children are best served by helping them align their gender identity with their anatomic sex. This view ultimately cost him his 30 year director ship of the child youth and family gender identity clinic.( GIC) at the center for addiction and mental health in Toronto.
His critics say that the growing trend to quickly diagnose and affirm young people as transgender, often sending them down a path of what they feel is unnecessary surgeries, and or hormonal treatments which have not been proven safe in the longterm represent significant risk of harm for young people.
According to Dr. Johanna Olsten- Kennedy an adolescent medicine specialist at children’s hospital Los Angeles a leader in pediatric gender transitioning.
She states that”it should be left up to the child what constitutes harm based upon their own thoughts and feelings.”
In the “overall view of gender development and gender non- conformity in children and adolescents,” Falcon and Olsen Kennedy dismiss the binary model of human sexuality as ” Ideology” and present an” alternative perspective” of “enate gender identity” that presents along a gender continuum. They recommend that pediatricians tell parents that a child’s “real gender is what he or she feels it is because af child’s brain and body might not be on the same page.”
In July the Bruesehoffs went to court and legally changed their daughter’s name from Ben to Rebekah. Jamie told the outlet that the next step is puberty blockers. As far as surgery Jamie says” that’s a decision for her to make down the road.
Jamie, Rebekahs mom now runs a blog called I am totally that mom, helping others to understand transgender people through her family’s journey of being a Trans Parent raising a transgender child. “It’s who God created her to be.
When family’s come together and reach out for help, especially for people who are transgender, amazing results can happen. Over coming life’s obstacles and fear of the unknown, can open doors to unique and rich life experiences. That often do make our relationships stronger and helps to build confidence.
Finding good resources for trans people can be tricky sometimes due to the overwhelming lack of data, inexperienced council, and miss information about rapidly changing laws and policies effecting transgender people.
The Bruesoffs family set a great example of parents who reached out to get the help they needed to navigate this gender nonconformet continuum, and love their child Rebekah.